“Remember Our Fallen Military on Memorial Day” — MRFF Board Member John Compere on the meaning, history, and traditions of Memorial Day

Published On: May 29, 2023|Categories: Top News|1 Comment|
Headshot of John Compere on American Flag background

Memorial Day on May 29 is our national holiday for remembering the patriotic men and women who sacrificed their lives in the military service of this country to preserve the freedoms we cherish today as Americans. Many do not know remembrance is its real meaning. 

A remembrance day has been observed since 1868 to honorably memorialize our brave military members who gave their lives defending this country. The genesis came from American women who decorated the graves of fallen soldiers with flowers in reverent remembrance during and after the Civil War. It was originally known as Decoration Day. 

It became Memorial Day and a federal holiday on the last Monday of May by the 1971 National Holiday Act. The National Moment of Remembrance Act of 2000 requests that we pause for one minute at 3pm on Memorial Day as an act of national unity to remember America’s fallen military heroes. Memorial Day weekend traditionally starts the summer vacation season.

Memorial Day should not be confused with Veterans Day (every November 11th) recognizing living and deceased military veterans who honorably served any length of time during peace or war and are no longing serving or Armed Forces Day (3rd Saturday in May) recognizing military men and women currently serving. We commemorate three distinct categories of military service with three different national observances. Memorial Day is for those who never made it out of their uniform, Veterans Day is for those who hung up their uniform and Armed Forces Day is for those serving in uniform. 

The first American revolutionary fatality was Crispus Attucks, an American stevedore of African and Native American descent, killed by the British during the Boston Massacre over 250 years ago. Eight citizen-soldiers fell later at the beginning of American Revolution armed hostilities near Lexington, Massachusetts. 1,354,644 have perished fighting for this country and 40,031 remain missing in action. There will be more as long as we humans remain a warring species. Greek Philosopher PLATO wisely warned “Only the dead have seen the end of war”.

Patriotic remembrance ceremonies and events are held throughout the country, including the National Memorial Day Concert on the US Capitol lawn and a wreath placing ceremony by the President at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier in Arlington National Cemetery. The Flowers of Remembrance Day event will allow the public to lay a flower at the Tomb. The American Legion crimson poppy flower is sold and worn as the nationally recognized symbol of sacrifice for those who gave their lives in the service of this country.

On Memorial Day, the American flag is traditionally raised to the top of the staff in the morning and lowered to half-staff until noon when it is raised back to full staff for the rest of the day. Lowering the flag to half-staff represents remembrance of those fallen. Return to full staff symbolizes their memory being raised by the living who resolve not to let their sacrifice be in vain, but to rise up and continue the fight for freedom, democracy and justice.

Another American tradition observed for Memorial Day is the placing of coins on graves of deceased military members who gave their lives serving our country. It is a symbolic act of respect and gratitude for their service and sacrifice. Coins of different denominations have distinct meanings (Penny – you knew the deceased, Nickel – you and the deceased attended basic training together, Dime – you and the deceased served together, and Quarter – you were present when the deceased was killed). Vietnam War veterans established a different but related coin tradition. Change of any denomination can be left at the grave of a deceased military comrade as the “down-payment” on a promise to buy him or her a drink when you meet in the afterlife. The custom of placing coins with the deceased originated in ancient Greek mythology.

Wherever you may be this Memorial Day, please pause for a moment to respectfully remember the brave military men and women who sacrificed their precious lives for our cherished American liberties.

“And today, as a nation, we undertake a sacred ritual: to reflect and to remember … With their lives, they bought our freedom. Freedom has never been free … Our democracy is our greatest gift as a nation, made holy by those we’ve lost along the way.” – President Joe Biden (Memorial Day, White House, 2022)

Brigadier General John Compere, US Army (Retired)
Disabled American Veteran (Vietnam Era)
Board Member, Military Religious Freedom Foundation
Texas rancher

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  1. Ironmoped May 29, 2023 at 5:22 pm

    A nation must honor its fallen, without question. The tragedy of the young lives lost and tremendous pain imposed upon the family of the fallen knows no solace. But when I think of memorial day, I can’t help but think of the political machinations that got us into these conflicts to begin with, and the politicians that sold the story to the American people.

    My heartfelt condolences to all those grieving families that have lost loved ones as a result of our overseas interventions.

    My sincere hope is that you at minimum, received a call from your congressional representative to express the Nation’s condolence and gratitude for your loved ones’s service and sacrifice.

    If you didn’t receive that call, they don’t want your vote. Period!

    This is not about party affiliation. Democrat or Republican, both bleed red!

    My sincere condolences.

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